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AS AN INDIAN I WILL POST ABOUT THE CULTURE AND BEHAVIOUR OF SOCIETY IN INDIA I CAME ACROSS IN VARIOUS ARTICLES AND BOOKS.
AS AN INDIAN I WILL POST ABOUT THE CULTURE AND BEHAVIOUR OF SOCIETY IN INDIA I CAME ACROSS IN VARIOUS ARTICLES AND BOOKS.
MARRIAGE SYSTEM
I am posting here some part of an excellent article about marriage system and thinking of most of the indians by NDTV editor SUNETRA CHOWDARY in THE HINDU news paper.
here it goes-
I know the arguments for an arranged marriage but what surprises me is how common and normal it still is. When a journalist I know recently got married, I asked her where she met her husband. She hesitated and said a little apologetically,“No, it’s an arranged marriage.” She looked a little wary and I remember telling herbeing married was quite fun; she said, “Is it?” We didn’t talk more and I didn’t want to intrude but I really couldn’t figure out why she would agree if she was so uncertain.
Could it be that our tradition of listening to elders in our family is just getting the better of us? Maybe, we are confusing the need to respect and take care of them with putting our lives in their hands. After all, isn’t the right to choose our partner the most basic right of us as individuals? Isn’t it an exercise of free will that we have a responsibility to fulfil? And when we give it up to make our parents happy, we aren’t just being lazy about asserting our independence, we are trying to be ‘good’, unlike those who bad, wayward people who marry out of choice and for love.
This campaign for marrying for love needs megastars so maybe we have crusaders like the uber cool MS Dhoni, who didn’t just set trends with his hair and his small town background but also has a filmy love story to be proud of. The story goes that his wife Sakshi was interning at a Kolkata hotel and when the cricket hero checked in, sparks flew. Or how about Sachin who is not just defying retirement age but is also a posterboy for falling in love with an older woman. These are Gods of Modern India and so maybe they could do this as a public and social awareness campaign instead of just endorsing cool drinks. We will, of course, gloss over the fact that Rahul Dravid, Virender Sehwag and Gautam Gambhir, all metro boys, all went in for the girls their parents chose.
But it’s an idea whose time has come. If groups like Love Commandos and Gulabi Gangs could emerge out of our cities and villages to protect those who are threatened by khaps and their likes, why can’t we all take this simple stand to make arranged matches ‘dishonourable’? The worst that can happen is that we stay single and that’s not such a bad thing for our population, either.
link to this article is: http://www.thehindu.com/opinion/open-page/not-for-arranged-marriage/article5204945.ece
